I love showers. Being clean is physically and mentally rewarding, and I love having smooth skin and soft hair. But they are so. Effing. Draining. I just took a lovely shower, and after toweling off, I barely had the energy to put on one of my comfy giant t-shirts and come upstairs. Now I’m resting on the couch before I make an attempt at foraging for food in the kitchen.
Sometimes I don’t get as tired after a shower, and other times I have to go take a nap because it just sucks the energy right out of me. I have yet to find a good way to mitigate the fatigue. The silver lining though is that my sinuses and allergies like me much better after a shower.
Anyone else become drained from showers? What are your tips for avoiding it? I generally shower every other day. I also have a shower stool I was thinking of using, maybe standing contributes to the fatigue I feel.
“People push you to your limits, but when you finally explode and fight back… You are the mean one.”
Grateful to Westword for writing this piece about Logan, a local kid on the autism spectrum, who was bullied at school and fought back. Two years later he and his family are still in the courts battling an assistant DA with a clear bias towards people on the spectrum. Bullying too often is rewarded with victim shaming. Logan is a good kid; he’s great with younger kids and very tolerant of their invading his personal space.
It is beyond maddening when people who are not neurotypical are demonized by the willfully ignorant and bias of others. It’s doubly so when those people are in positions of power, which make it their mission to create strife in the lives of individuals with mental health diagnoses and their families. The media does an excellent job of adding to this misunderstanding and fear, which in turn keeps the cycle of fear and poor perception ongoing.
Many of us have to deal with bias in medicine. We’re either female, too fat, too young, too…something, and therefore we’re drug seekers and complainers. Difficult patients. Aubrey Hirsch has a wonderful comic about her experience as a woman looking for care. It can be incredibly difficult for people to be taken seriously in the world of healthcare, but you are not alone. Many people have trouble getting proper diagnoses and it certainly can take years to get answers. It’s far more easy for physicians to gaslight and brush of patients in the face of difficult diagnoses.
People often tell me I 'shoot from the hip', or I'm 'as honest as the day is long' or I 'don't hold back' - people seem to like that about me. Through the years a lot of people have told me that they admire my strength or positivity. I'm not too sure why as I don't particularity see myself in that way .... I think I've always been a bit head strong and I've always had a mouth on me but a moment that definitely changed me forever was when my brother died by suicide at the age of 17 - I was 16 and we were extremely close. I think it was around that time or not too long after I decided f*ck it, I'm not here for a long time and I'm not going to let anyone hold me back, including myself as we all know we are the worst for doing it to ourselves. Maybe the shock & trauma of that happening at a young age made me slightly more formidable who knows!? ... I also fear it might be the ruin of me someday. Anyway I wrote one article and got a positive response so I thought let me find a home for them and if people like them or they resonate with anyone, well that's a bonus! Thanks for visiting :)